Alone With God

A Message on Intimacy, Presence, and the Secret Place

A Question That Cuts to the Heart

Let me ask you something — and I want you to sit with it before you answer.

When was the last time you were truly, deliberately, unhurriedly alone with God?

Not a rushed prayer on the way to work. Not a quick 'Lord help me' in a moment of crisis. Not scrolling past a scripture on your phone. I mean truly, intentionally alone — just you and Him — with no agenda except His presence.

If you struggle to remember… this message is for you.

Intimacy Is Not a Feeling — It's a Function

The word intimacy sounds warm and romantic, but at its core, it is deeply practical. Intimacy is the fruit of two things working together: relationship and time.

You cannot be intimate with someone you don't know. And you cannot know someone you never make time for.

This is as true of God as it is of any human relationship. The greatest marriages, the deepest friendships, the most trusted partnerships — they all share one thing: time deliberately given to one another.

"Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you." — James 4:8

Notice what James does not say. He does not say 'cry out to God when you're in trouble and He'll show up.' He says draw near. That is a sustained, intentional, daily movement toward God — and the promise is that He moves toward you in return.

God is not playing hard to get. He is not hiding. He is waiting. He is leaning in, longing for you to lean in too.

Are You in a Relationship — or Just Using God?

Let's be painfully honest. I'm not pointing fingers — I'm standing right here with you. Because if we are truthful with ourselves, many of us — myself included at seasons of our lives — have reduced the living God of the universe to a spiritual vending machine.

• We punch in our request when life gets hard.
• We reach for Him when the diagnosis is bad.
• We pray loudly when the money runs out.
• We go quiet the moment things are going well.

We use Him and then we go silent. We call Him Lord — but we don't give Him our time.

Think about what we are really saying when we live like that. We are saying: 'God, I don't want You — I want what You can do for me.' We are treating the King of Glory like a helpline. An emergency service. A last resort.

And then we wonder why we feel spiritually dry. Why our faith feels hollow. Why we can quote the scriptures but don't feel His presence. Could it be that we have been calling on His hand — and never seeking His face?

"You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart." — Jeremiah 29:13

Not half your heart. Not the leftover parts of your heart after work, family, and social media have taken their share. All of it. God is not looking for a transaction. He is looking for a relationship. And relationships require more than emergencies — they require presence, consistency, and pursuit.

"I love those who love me, and those who seek me diligently find me." — Proverbs 8:17

That word 'diligently' — in the original Hebrew it carries the meaning of seeking early, eagerly, habitually. Not as a last resort. Not when everything else has failed. But first. Every day. As a deliberate declaration: 'God — before this world gets my attention — You have it.'

What Couples Know That We've Forgotten

Think about the couples you most admire — the ones who have been together for decades and still clearly adore each other. What is their secret?

It is not that they never fight. It is not that life never got hard. It is that through every season, they kept making time. Time alone. Time without children, without work, without phones — just the two of them, present to each other.

Intimacy does not happen by accident. It is built in the quiet, protected, intentional spaces between two people who have chosen each other.

God is choosing you every single morning. The question is — are you choosing Him?

"Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away." — Song of Solomon 2:10

God is calling you away. Away from the noise. Away from the screens. Away from the busyness that has swallowed your spiritual life whole. He is saying: come away with me. I have things to show you that the world cannot show you. I have words for you that no one else can speak.

But you will never hear them if you never come.

The Secret Place: Where God Shares Secrets

One of the most profound dimensions of intimacy is what happens when two people trust each other enough to share what they share with no one else. The secret. The private word. The thing spoken only between them.

God wants this with you.

"Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known." — Jeremiah 33:3

Great and hidden things. Mighty things. Things that no algorithm can surface, that no mentor can give you, that no conference can teach you. These are reserved — not for the loudest or the most talented — but for those who will stop, come away, and call.

The secret things of God are not locked away. They are simply reserved for the secret place.

"The friendship of the Lord is for those who fear him, and he makes known to them his covenant." — Psalm 25:14

The word 'friendship' in this verse is the Hebrew word sod — meaning secret counsel, a private circle of trusted intimates. God has an inner circle. And the criterion for membership is not perfection or performance — it is nearness. It is the one who comes, day after day, and waits.

"Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty." — Psalm 91:1

To dwell is not to visit. It is to abide. To stay. To make your home there. And the promise for those who dwell — for those who are consistently, habitually alone with God — is a shadow: the cover of His presence over your life.

"Alone with God" — What It Actually Looks Like

This is not about mysticism or a special gift. This is not reserved for monks, ministers, or the spiritually elite. This is for you.

Being 'Alone with God' is simply this: a time you set aside — decided in advance — to meet with God, with no other agenda than to be with Him.

You decide the time. You show up at that time. You get quiet. And you listen.

Not to deliver a speech. Not to present a petition. But to be still and let His Spirit speak to your spirit. He teaches. He leads. He corrects gently. He affirms quietly. He shows you things in your heart you didn't even know were there.

"Be still and know that I am God." — Psalm 46:10

In this time, you may bring a question — something you are wrestling with, a decision you face, a situation that has you confused. You bring it before the Voice of Truth, and you wait for clarity. Not every answer comes immediately. But in the faithful practice of coming, clarity builds.

"And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, 'This is the way, walk in it,' when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left." — Isaiah 30:21

That voice? It gets louder the more time you spend in that secret place. And quieter — and harder to discern — the less time you give it.

The Benefits of the Secret Place

Being consistently alone with God does not just make you feel good. It transforms who you are and rewires how you move through the world.

1. You Carry His Presence — and You Are Never Alone in the Storm

When you have been with God, you carry something others can sense but cannot explain. Moses came down from the mountain and his face was literally shining — he did not even know it. The early disciples, uneducated and ordinary men, stood before the Sanhedrin with such authority that the rulers marvelled, and took note that these men had been with Jesus. (Exodus 34:29, Acts 4:13)

Now — let us be clear about what this promise is NOT. God never guaranteed a problem-free life. He did not promise the storms would not come. He promised something far greater: that when they come, we do not face them alone. 'When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you.' (Isaiah 43:2) The waters still rise. But they do not overwhelm — because He is in them with you.

The person who is consistently alone with God does not suddenly live a charmed life. But they carry a peace in the fire that their circumstances cannot explain. What would have broken them before — the betrayal, the diagnosis, the loss — they walk through it differently. Not because the trouble has gone, but because the Presence is real. 'The peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.' (Philippians 4:7)

2. He Directs Your Path — Specifically

One of the greatest gifts of intimacy with God is divine navigation. Not vague impressions, but clear direction. When you are consistently in His presence, He speaks into your decisions — your relationships, your finances, your calling, your next step. You stop guessing. You stop making the same costly mistakes. His GPS becomes active in your life. (Proverbs 3:5–6, Isaiah 58:11)

3. You Know His Voice — and Cannot Be Deceived

Jesus said His sheep hear His voice. But hearing a voice requires familiarity with it. A wife knows her husband's voice in a crowd. A child knows their parent's voice in the dark. The more time you spend alone with God, the more you recognise when He is speaking — and equally, the more you recognise when it is not Him. Discernment is not a spiritual gift granted once. It is developed through consistent time in His presence. (John 10:27, 1 Kings 19:12)

4. Your Spiritual Perception Is Sharpened

There is a dimension of reality invisible to the natural eye that becomes increasingly clear to those who walk closely with God. You begin to sense things before they happen. You see through spiritual deception. You discern the condition of people's hearts. You understand what a season means. This is not the fruit of intelligence — it is the fruit of intimacy. Daniel was ten times wiser than the wise men of Babylon not because he was smarter, but because he prayed three times a day without fail. (Daniel 6:10, Hebrews 5:14)

The Invitation Is Still Open

God has not changed His number. He has not moved. He has not grown tired of waiting. He is, right now, in the same place He has always been — available, ready, and longing.

The question is not whether God will show up. The question is whether you will.

You do not need a perfect prayer life. You do not need the right words. You do not even need to fully understand what you're doing. You simply need to show up — consistently, honestly, with a heart that says: 'God, I want to know You. Not just know about You. Know You.'

"Let us know; let us press on to know the Lord; his going out is sure as the dawn; he will come to us as the showers, as the spring rains that water the earth." — Hosea 6:3

Press on to know Him. He is as certain as the dawn. He will come.

Your Challenge — Starting Today

Before this week is over, make a decision. Not a feeling. A decision.

• Choose a time — early morning, late night, lunch hour. Choose it and protect it.
• Choose a place — somewhere quiet, somewhere you can shut the noise out.
• Show up for 15 minutes. Just 15. And be still.
• Don't perform. Don't fill the silence with words. Let Him speak first.
• Do it again tomorrow. And the day after. Until it becomes the thing you cannot live without.

The world will try to take everything from you. But no one can take what you build in the secret place.

This is not a discipline reserved for the deeply spiritual. This is the invitation extended to every child of God — including you, exactly as you are, right now.

"Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me." — Revelation 3:20

He is knocking. Not with desperation, but with longing. The knock of a Father who misses His child. The knock of a Friend who has been waiting at the door.

OPEN THE DOOR. BE ALONE WITH GOD.

"One thing have I asked of the Lord, that will I seek after:

that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life,

to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord and to inquire in his temple."

— Psalm 27:4